Sunday, November 30, 2008

Step 4: Quality versus Time

Steven had been working till late these days. His work kept on piling up especially towards the end of the month. It is not because of his inefficiency or procrastination but it is due to the increasing amount of work load given to him by his company. His company had a lot of expectation from him as he had been a very hardworking employee since his came to the company.


Steven reached home late one night. He was lying on the couch, staring at the digital clock which exhibited the number 12.30, he reflected on his busy day at work. Suddenly a question popped out from his exhausted mind.

Do long hours guarantee more productivity and more profit?

Maybe. Maybe not.

He remembered reading something regarding this in some article. Despite being tired, he searched for the article. He found it. It is a Wall Street Journal article. An industrial psychologist John Kamp said,

"Everybody's got a different limit. But there's a point for every person at which extra hours cause a drop in work quality and an increase in stress."

"Hmm..there seems to be a fine line between the extra productivity created by the extra hours and a decline in the quality and creativity of the finished product of those extra hours," Steven murmured as he headed to his laptop trying to search for more articles.

To his surprise, he found out that a key cause of the productivity decline in America is marital difficulty. It seems likely that many people who work long hours in an effort to be more productive were actually risking their productivity as well as their marriages. People who work for long hours might also lose their ability to appreciate and achieve the goals of their employer.

"We want to make sure people see how their efforts fit into the big picture," says Kirby Dyess, vice president of human resources for Intel.

Intel is also wary of overwork intruding on workers' personal lives. In surveys over the past few years, Ms. Dyess says, Intel employees who report success in balancing their professional and personal obligations were more likely to say they could tolerate competitive pressures (like ambiguity and change) than those who said work dominated their lives.
Besides that, Steven also read that in a recent internal study, there showed no correlation between hours worked and advancement at Intel. Education, experience and results matter more. However, Ms. Dyess says there are times when it makes sense to work extra hours.

Maury Hanigan, a New York consultant who advises companies on personnel strategies, says in a new job "you need to put in the time to get up to speed and make your mark," perhaps for a year.

"OK! I shall give myself one year!" Steven said to himself as he walked towards the bathroom to enjoy a hot bath before going to sleep.

From where I stand, balance is the key. Our personal, family and business lives are all important. The best way to get to the top and stay there is to maintain that balance. Come back for more motivations to improve your life.

Saturday, November 15, 2008

Step 3: Finding The Right Words

Steven was lying on his bed ready to go to sleep. Before he slept, he reflected on what he did today hopefully he will not repeat the same mistake the next time something similar popped up. During his recollection, he smiled. Thinking of a particular situation where he felt embarrassed if he ever share it with anyone.

He recalled of his first experience in trying to find the right words to say. When he was small, he has this close friend, Recca. One day, he found out that Recca was hospitalised. Recca needed surgery. Therefore, she stayed at the hospital for quite some time. When she came back from the hospital, Steven couldn't find enough courage to go over and visit her mainly because he couldn't find the right words to speak.

At one fine day, Steven's mom told Steven that Recca wants to see him. Steven went over but before he could say anything, Recca gave him a bear hug. It was at that moment that he realized, his presence was what that matters. Even if there were words exchanged, he couldn't had remembered.

Even up till today, he felt a little more courageous but he still find difficulties in searching for the right words to say. He still find it awkward when he received personal questions in which he usually brushed it off with something silly. He even hesitated to voice out his feelings for the person he had a crushed on.

Sometimes he wonder,"Why do I struggle so much with words when it involves sharing my personal feelings with those i care the most?"

He once asked for an opinion from his friend Dominique.

"Stop being sensitive and say what you want to say. If you don't feel like saying it den don't say la. Not like people are asking when was your 'first' time," Dominique answered sarcastically but it was of goodwill.

He begun to giggle while he was still lying on his bed thinking of that idiotic answer Dominique gave him. Before he fell asleep, he thought of Recca, at that moment, all that matters to her was his presence. Even if he had nothing to say, she will be delighted. It was never about saying the right words; rather, it was about being present, in communication with someone we care about.


Think about the last time you received a greeting card. Do you remember the message on the card or the person that sent you the card? Reflect on your previous dinner outing with your friends, do you remember what you ate and drink or the ones who were present?

Words can answer a thousand questions, Your presence meant more than a thousand answers.

Come back next week for more motivational stories shared by Steven.

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Step 2: Problems are Opportunities

Steven was very tired after staring at the monitor for long hours.


"Damn!" his thoughts were disturbed the whole day.

It was not a pleasant day for him. He arrived late at work because his mate forgot to refill the empty tank of his car after she drove out last night. His car caused a massive traffic jam and he had to wait for an hour for the tow truck to arrive.


Just as he arrived in the office, he received a call from his boss's secretary, summoning him into the boss's room. He went in anticipating a praise from his boss but too bad his anticipation turned disappointment. His boss gave him 8 words "This is not what I want to see".

He went to his seat trying to figure out what went wrong to his proposal, only to find out it was incomplete because he was provided with incomplete information.


"Damn! Why didn't I put more initiative and do more research on it? Now i have to start doing all over again," Steven was very disappointed with himself.

Suddenly he saw his msn blinking.

"Argh! What Dominique wants today?" he asked himself. He didn't feel like answering him because chances of him pestering at his private life was high. He decided to open the chat box to see what other surprises awaited him.

"Eh bro...dinner tonite?" said Dominique.

"Okla...i cancel all appointments just to have dinner with you la..." Steven answered in a leisure manner.

That night, Steven had a last minute meeting. So Dominique waited for him for almost an hour. When Steven arrived, he felt sorry because Dominique waited for so long.

They sat down and Steven begun complaining about his day.

"Bro, to be very honest, problems are part of life regardless whether they are big or small issues. It is how we handle the problems that matters. Even if at this moment, you are still feeling unhappy with your day, what difference does it make to you tonight? Does it make a difference tomorrow morning as well?" Dominique voiced it out to Steven in a strong tone.

"Agree," Steven answered after pondering for a moment.

"What happen to us today will be history tomorrow. It is how we handle our problems today that will benefit us tomorrow," Dominique said as he took a sip on his drink.

"But my problems are still there," added Steven after a long sigh.

"You take control of your own thoughts, emotions and actions. In short, you take control of your life. The best way to deal with problems is to re-order your thinking and see them as opportunities to be mature," Dominique stated his point instantly.

"But then..."Steven was trying to finish his sentence but Dominique interrupted.

"Remember. If there were no problems in your job; chances are good that you are not needed. Chances are also good when the greater the difficulties, the greater is the need for you to be there to handle them. Bro, isn't that the reason you're on the payroll?" Dominique laughed as he finish his sentence.

Steven took a deep long breathe and thought for a while before replying Dominique.

"Eh...what happen today? Why you suddenly talk like that?" Steven questioned Dominique as he sounded different that night.

"No la...i was reading about problem solving so I thought maybe i should just share some with you," Dominique said with a grin on his face.

"I personally think we had been resting on our laurels for too long," Steven said while drinking his cup of coffee.

"Agree. So I think it is time for us to make things happen!" Dominique proclaimed it with seriousness.

Come back next week for the next step to lead a positive life.

Saturday, November 1, 2008

Step 1 : Be a Fighter!

Steven was driving back home. As he drove, the shimmering lights of the street lamps were his only companion. A lot of thoughts flashes through his mind, bombarding him with tons of uncertainties.


"When was the last time I did something for the first time?" he asked himself.

This particular question had been hitting him hard lately. He realise that there hadn't been any progress in his life ever since he begun working. He found himself lack of initiate and innovative in life. He is worried. At the moment, a few of his old time buddies are doing much better than he is.

As he drove, the questions are drawing his attention away from the wheels. He decided to stop at the nearest coffee outlet to have a nice hot chocolate, hopefully he could get a good night sleep and wake up at the right side of the bed the next day.


As he sat down sipping his hot chocolate, he found a magazine lying on the table. He flipped the pages. An interesting article caught his attention.

"Personal growth involves challenging ourself and pushing ourself beyond the realm of comfort."

"I agree," he murmured to himself as he continued reading.

We often caught up in our own comfort zone and didn't take the initiative to venture for something new. Hence our life became stagnant and mundane.

He nodded in agreement.He took another sip of his hot chocolate and continue reading through the lines.

Nobody can go back to the past and start a new beginning but anyone can start doing something today and work towards a better ending in future.

Another sip of hot chocolate gargled its way down Steven's throat.

Yesterday ended last night. Today marks the start of a brave adventure.We couldn't foresee tomorrow but tomorrow is filled with all that our dreams can hold.


Steven smiled after reading that line. He could see a glimmer at the end of his tunnel.

"I don't know where to go" are excuses created by cowardice individuals. Fighters should say, "I will go to the furthest I can see, so that I am able to see further."

A journey to a thousand step begins with this entry. This is the first step. After taking this step, you should come back next week for the second.